How miscommunication creates misunderstanding.

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Peace or War is up to us!

Answers from Elena Ornig

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Answering your questions!

What do I mean?  Just this – being frank, honest and sincere gives us the advantage of delivering or broadcasting our message clearly and concisely, thereby avoiding miscommunication.

Miscommunication creates misunderstanding.  It makes doubts, as a disturbing notion crawls into a head of a ‘receiver’.  Without a clear and concise message from a ‘messenger’, the ‘receiver’ will be confused about the intention, agenda and motive of the messenger.  This is a two-way problem.

Even with sincerity, good intentions and the right agenda, the ‘receiver’ – by hearing, but not attentively listening – and by neglecting clarifications, confirmations and an intensive reading of body language, can misunderstand the message and the ‘messenger’.  Quite often we believe that in some way we are mind-readers, but in fact, we do not really know what is going on in other people’s minds.  Undoubtedly, the clarification of a message is the responsibility of both the ‘messenger’, and the ‘receiver’.

Misunderstanding, along with doubt, creates confusion and eventually mistrust.  Mistrust is a logical and final result of misunderstanding due to miscommunication, and is a fertile ground for conflict.  Entangled in confusion, the ‘receiver’ feels vulnerable and assumes, without further clarification, that the ‘messenger’ has no consideration for their interests.  That feeling of vulnerability will unlock fear; a strong and very negative barrier to trust.  Once the sincerity and motivation of the ‘messenger’ are in a question, it will be associated with a bad outcome for the ‘receiver’.  Fear, due to mistrust, will increase and will trigger the internal mechanism of survival, self-protection and self-defense – and the resistance will accrue.

Unfortunately, this is not an ending, rather the beginning of an action by the ‘receiver’ who will feel the ‘duty’ to warn others.   Talking ‘behind their back’ – unnecessarily – will increase the conflict between the ‘receiver’ and the ‘messenger’, with an involved crowd of ‘blind’ followers. Resistance, instead of a resolution, without further clarification and confirmation, can easily escalate from a conflict into a war.

To avoid a war, every ‘messenger’ must take responsibility to be sincere, honest, and concise; clear and frank.   As for a ‘receiver’, the responsibility is to listen – and not just hear, to clarify and to confirm a ‘message’ in order to understand the object or subject, and the intentions, agenda or motivation of the ‘messenger’.

The perfect communication will result in clear understanding and will create trust, not fear; therefore an acceptance, instead of resistance, and there will be no grounds for a conflict. Logically, without conflict it is basically impossible to escalate to a war.

Peace or War?

Peace or War is up to us!

Finally and conclusively, it is up to us to have peace or to create a war, by taking our responsibilities seriously, or neglecting them carelessly.  It makes doubts, as a disturbing notion crawls into a head of a ‘receiver’.  Without a clear and concise message from a ‘messenger’, the ‘receiver’ will be confused about the intention, agenda and motive of the messenger.  This is a two-way problem.

Even with sincerity, good intentions and the right agenda, the ‘receiver’ – by hearing, but not attentively listening – and by neglecting clarifications, confirmations and an intensive reading of body language, can misunderstand the message and the ‘messenger’.  Quite often we believe that in some way we are mind-readers, but in fact, we do not really know what is going on in other people’s minds.  Undoubtedly, the clarification of a message is the responsibility of both the ‘messenger’, and the ‘receiver’.

Misunderstanding, along with doubt, creates confusion and eventually mistrust.  Mistrust is a logical and final result of misunderstanding due to miscommunication, and is a fertile ground for conflict.  Entangled in confusion, the ‘receiver’ feels vulnerable and assumes, without further clarification, that the ‘messenger’ has no consideration for their interests.  That feeling of vulnerability will unlock fear; a strong and very negative barrier to trust.  Once the sincerity and motivation of the ‘messenger’ are in a question, it will be associated with a bad outcome for the ‘receiver’.  Fear, due to mistrust, will increase and will trigger the internal mechanism of survival, self-protection and self-defense – and the resistance will accrue.

Unfortunately, this is not an ending, rather the beginning of an action by the ‘receiver’ who will feel the ‘duty’ to warn others.   Talking ‘behind their back’ – unnecessarily – will increase the conflict between the ‘receiver’ and the ‘messenger’, with an involved crowd of ‘blind’ followers. Resistance, instead of a resolution, without further clarification and confirmation, can easily escalate from a conflict into a war.

To avoid a war, every ‘messenger’ must take responsibility to be sincere, honest, and concise; clear and frank.   As for a ‘receiver’, the responsibility is to listen – and not just hear, to clarify and to confirm a ‘message’ in order to understand the object or subject, and the intentions, agenda or motivation of the ‘messenger’.

The perfect communication will result in clear understanding and will create trust, not fear; therefore an acceptance, instead of resistance, and there will be no grounds for a conflict. Logically, without conflict it is basically impossible to escalate to a war.
My warmest regards,

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Written by Elena Ornig

Managing Director of Publishing Company "Julia Sophistique Pty Ltd". Committee member of Australian Computer Association GC Chapter. Member of Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers (IEEE). Member of the Chamber of Commerce & Industry Queensland. Member of the IT Forum Gold Coast. Sponsor of the Helensvale Writers' Group, Gold Coast. Committee member of the Gold Coast Writers Association Honored VIP Member of STANFORD WHO'S WHO in America. Publisher, writer and blogger.

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